Rent
Neck and neck
Honolulu and Durham are about even on rent.
Honolulu
$2,150/mo
Durham
$2,150/mo
What this means for your life
Typical rent in Honolulu is $2,150 a month versus $2,150 in Durham, close enough that housing cost should not decide the move by itself. Factor it into your budget alongside salary differences between the two markets, then pick the city that wins the categories you actually live in: safety, schools, pay, or weather.